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I remember my very first time. As I walked up to the house my mouth was dry. I knocked on the door, nervously clutching my character sheet and bag of dice. Players de a character and imagine their way through adventures dreamed up by their Dungeon Master.


And even if your party is relatively straight-laced, the issue of sex and romance may appear in your RPG campaign. And as The Great GM himself says. So how do you handle these issues? How do you deal with the embarrassment of DnD sex?

These 5 tips should help you manage DnD sex and romantic encounters! So, is DnD sex right for your game? And how far should you go? AND what you need to get your players ready for too!

If it were a movie, would it be U or PG15 or strongly adult? And are there other adult themes, like gore and violence?

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If not, then sex — if not romance — may not be an issue you have to deal with. So first of all, think about whether sexual encounters are even appropriate for your setting.

And if they are, how explicit should they be to live up to genre expectations. After all, you can absolutely have romance in an RPG without anything explicit. Rather watch a video than read? Check out my video for the TL:DR then read the blog for more details!

This has become a very public problem in the past few years, both in streamed games and convention games. My two personal mantras are:.

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Players come to my table to be intrigued and entertained. But mainly they come to inhabit characters and make choices. Removing player agency — in my opinion at least — is shooting your RPG campaign in the foot! And then check in periodically after that. For my home game, I know my players well. So I know their limits better.

And that, really, is why safety tools are so valuable. And now, the time has come.

The charming Bartender turns to the PC and says…. Just how do you deal with these flirty moments as a GM, especially if you feel awkward roleplaying them? In these moments, if you feel awkward, I have two tips. A dice roll.

A contested check. They are there to help you. The second tip is to swap out of first-person.

This gives you some distance from the NPC and the exchange. It allows you to be a narrator rather than an actor. Obviously flirty moments can be dramatic, manipulative, intoxicating, or hilarious, depending on the situation. If you roll the dice and start giggling, the whole scene will descend into hilarity and silliness.

How much should I show before I fade to black? How adult is it? How emotionally intense? This is a good guide for figuring out where to fade to black. For a light-hearted or PG game, you might have a few flirty remarks or some witty banter, and then the fade to black. In a more adult game, the emotional intensity — and possibly the intimacy — might go just a bit further.

You can read the room to see how your other players are reacting. And again, those safety cards will help you too! If the player in question wants to go into more detail and others are uncomfortable, there are ways to handle that too. For example, you can ask for a player to write a journal about how they think the encounter went. And that can give you, the GM, a lot of leverage for great story moments.

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Again, this is especially good if the other players around the table are feeling awkward. So it introduces secrets and mystery within the party too.

Is someone in love? Is this the start of something bigger?

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Or has someone crossed a line that cannot be backtracked….? Which le us beautifully to the final tip!

There are so many interesting consequences from sexual encounters! I think one that many people consider is conditions like STDs. But what about magical conditions, too? For example, what if that brothel was actually run by vampires. If your character worships a deity — or even more, is divine powered, like a cleric or a paladin — how does this affect them? And if they did the naughty with someone of an opposite faith… how might their deity react?

Or what about the oldest consequence in the book — pregnancy? The PC now has on the way. Does this galvanize their need to make the world a better place? Does it bring up feelings of their own orphan status or tragic backstory? These are great ways to have player characters evaluate their characters, develop further. And of course, my favorite consequence: what if it was a honey trap?

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Perhaps the person slept with the PC just to get more information? Or maybe it was even the big bad themselves, in disguise? These are great ways to give more plot depth to a simple romantic encounter. The possibilities are endless here! You can use them in a later adventure as a quest giver, or even have the PCs go to their rescue! Follow this link to submit your worldbuilding prompt AND to see other answers if people have chosen to make them public! Our Campaign Manager helps you build your homebrew world and run your campaign in over 30 major systems!

Blythe with Kyanite Publishing. She's passionate about all things worldbuilding, and you can check out her videos on her Youtube channel - www. DnD Sex?! This honestly goes for anything. You might want to double-check this with your players in private too. Many people will feel awkward admitting discomfort in a public forum, for fear of stigma. And the whole point is to have fun. No book is written for all readers, no movie for all viewers. Once you get closer to the moment you want to bring in the first romantic or sexual theme, check in again.

This might be one or two sessions If in doubt check out what safety tools are available.

I found this article to be an excellent rundown, with links to resources too! What to do when DnD sex feels awkward? Your challenge, should you choose to accept it, is: Create a love interest NPC for one of your PCs… and add consequences! 5 tips for worldbuilding birth traditions. Next Paths of Savage Gods: less organizing, more playing!

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