I Accidentally Slept With My Best Friend
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Sex is fun. Let's start there. But sex comes with issues. When friends engage in moments of passion Stay friends or be lovers, just be cool.


I doubt that I have seen or hung out with any other friend of mine as much as her over the course of my life. I probably saw her almost every day from when we started school until when we finished high school. That is how close we were and how much time we spent together. In college it has been mostly the same.

Ask brian: my friend drunkenly slept with our mutual friend's boyfriend in a shed at a house party - should i tell her?

We study together, eat lunch together most days, and do stuff together on weekends. It was a complete accident that neither of us intended.

It just kind of happened and it was done before I think either of us had a chance to think about the implications. My response was to apologize and try to move on and get back to normal. She actually wanted to start dating and has spent the last 3 weeks trying to convince me we should while I have unsuccessfully been trying to go back to how things were.

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It feels impossible because every time I try to move back to something platonic she pushes back. I just like being free. Is there any chance I can bring this back? She seems completely disinterested in just having a friendship.

Tl;dr: Accidentally slept with my lifelong best friend. Trying to go back to just being friends but she wants to start dating.

What no one tells you about sleeping with a friend

This is the important part. OP's "friend" was nursing a crush, and took advantage of the liquid courage to act on it. But this wasn't a healthy friendship even before they got drunk and naked.

Get distance OP. You can't give her what she wants, and she'll never be happy while stuck pining over a friend. No you probably can't go back to being friends. If you don't want to try and date her you should probably distance yourself from her.

We don't get second chances or do overs. You can decide that you're not going to be a couple, but it's up to her to decide whether you can be friends.

If she kissed you first she was probably thinking about doing it for a loooooonng time before she actually did. Then when you accepted the kiss and actually had sex she saw it as proof that you had the same feeling she did.

What no one tells you about sleeping with a friend

You can't unring that bell. As a former best friend who started sleeping with her now former best friend, sit her down and be clear that you don't want a sexual relationship with her and so you are going to draw some really clear boundaries. No flirting,no late nights at each other's places, no getting super drunk together, etc. If she or you can't handle being friends with boundaries you didn't need pre-sex then you might need to take a step back and more of a break from each other.

How to do damage control after 'accidentally' sleeping with a good friend

If you let it seem possible or aren't firm with her she will just be more hurt in the end. Found the internet!

My best friend [19F] and I [19M] accidentally slept together. I want to forget it and go back to being friends. She wants to be a couple. Posted by 5 years ago. Sort by: best.

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